What is child sexual abuse? Anytime a child, teenager, or adult uses a child in a sexual way, it is abuse. Sexual contact may be gentle or painful. Clothes may be on or off. Child sexual abuse includes sexual touching, kissing, play, showing of pornography or taking pictures. Sexual abuse is never a child's fault. Children cannot give consent to sex with an older child, a teenager, or an adult.
Don't make your children:
- Hug or kiss someone if they do not want to. This teaches children they have to hug or kiss someone when they are told to. It may teach them to ignore their own feelings of what is unsafe, or confusing.
- Don't tell children they have to do "everything" the babysitter or the boyfriend or older brother, etc. says. Children hear things in a concrete way. Children may think they "have to do whatever" they are told. Sexual abuse is about power, trickery, deceit, and secrets.
- Never leave your child with a known or suspected sex offender, even if the person has been through treatment.
See a doctor right away if:
- Your child has pain or bleeding in their private areas
- Your child has irritation or discharge from their private areas
The National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect Information maintains publications with helpful hints on parenting. These resources can be accessed and downloaded free.
- Tips for Being a Nurturing Parent
- Grandparents Raising Grandchildren
- Soothing A Crying Infant
- The Power of Choice
- Time Out
- Dealing With Temper Tantrums
Parents Anonymous is a resource where parents can ask for help before abuse can start. Parents Anonymous offers several groups in Anchorage that meet on a regular basis. Parents Anonymous also operates local 24-hour hotlines.
Phone: (907) 337-7678
Help Line: (800) 478-7678
In Anchorage and Fairbanks
Faye Nieto, Executive Director
4743 E. Northern Lights Blvd
Anchorage, AK 99508